That Your Prayers May Not Be Hindered
That Your Prayers May Not Be Hindered – Part One.
1 Peter 3:7, You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. In I Peter, Peter mentions prayer three times. What is remarkable about these three instances is that there is something common to each of them.
The First Mention: First, Peter has a word for husbands about prayer and their relationship with their wives
The Second Mention: Second, in the very next paragraph he speaks to all believers.
The Third Mention: Third, in 1 Peter 4:7 he says, The end of all things is at hand; therefore, be of sound judgment and sober spirit for the purpose of prayer [literally: for the sake of prayers].
What Is the Common Thread?
Now what is the unusual common thread running through those three references to prayer? What struck me is that all three teach us not that praying helps us live right, but that living right helps us pray. Now it’s true that praying is one of the ways God has appointed to help us live the way we should (cf. Colossians 1:9–10). But Peter’s point in every one of these texts is that it’s true the other way around: God has appointed a way for us to live which will help us pray. There are ways live that hinder prayers and there is a way to live that helps prayer.
How Husbands Live with Their Wives: The first one in 3:7 tells us husbands that there is a way to live with our wives that can clog our prayers, and a way to live with our wives that will help our prayers.
If you want your prayers to be helped and not hindered you have to live with your wife in a certain way. There has to be an effort to understand her so as to know her needs. There has to be a special solicitousness of her weaknesses and what she especially needs from you. There has to be a recognition that she is a fellow heir of the grace of life and an accompanying bestowal of honor rather than any belittling or demeaning. When we husbands live like this (with understanding, tender care, and honor), our prayers will not be hindered. From the pen of John Piper, January 1994